I lie all the time then. I'm an enneagram 9, peace at all cost...many lies. I refuse to tell family when my husband is out of town, because I delight in that time with just myself. It seems as soon as I mention him leaving everyone wants to tell me to fill my time with this or with that, or let's go do such and such. I am not very good at saying no, so I choose to say nothing and avoid having to answer at all.
Ah yes, the lies of a peace-keeping Enneagram 9.... I'm well acquainted. Although, I don't blame you one tiny bit for keeping your mouth shut to get undisputed time to yourself.
Me too! Me too! Very validating to read your blog. Thank you for being "honest". I too have been paying attention to how often I lie. It is scary actually..guilty of saying I am fine, when I am not; coloring my grey hair; smiling when i feel like not; I used to say. "I will pray for you( but then I don't)- i no longer do that.
This was really great thanks for the read! I am an INFJ and would spend my whole life in introversion if I could but I still want the company of friends so every attempt at putting myself out there and overcompensating with extroversion is a lie. Or maybe part of life is making compromises too and this is one I have chosen to make.
I LOVE this so much! I can relate soooo much! Thanks for writing this!!!!
Thanks so much Tamara :)
I lie all the time then. I'm an enneagram 9, peace at all cost...many lies. I refuse to tell family when my husband is out of town, because I delight in that time with just myself. It seems as soon as I mention him leaving everyone wants to tell me to fill my time with this or with that, or let's go do such and such. I am not very good at saying no, so I choose to say nothing and avoid having to answer at all.
Ah yes, the lies of a peace-keeping Enneagram 9.... I'm well acquainted. Although, I don't blame you one tiny bit for keeping your mouth shut to get undisputed time to yourself.
Me too! Me too! Very validating to read your blog. Thank you for being "honest". I too have been paying attention to how often I lie. It is scary actually..guilty of saying I am fine, when I am not; coloring my grey hair; smiling when i feel like not; I used to say. "I will pray for you( but then I don't)- i no longer do that.
Well... at least we can stop lying about who we're praying for..... #tendermercy ;)
This was really great thanks for the read! I am an INFJ and would spend my whole life in introversion if I could but I still want the company of friends so every attempt at putting myself out there and overcompensating with extroversion is a lie. Or maybe part of life is making compromises too and this is one I have chosen to make.