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Mary Hutto Fruchter's avatar

Love this! Love how you are always writing things that make people feel better about themselves.

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Celeste Davis's avatar

Aw thanks Mary! That's always my goal!

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Jon Ogden's avatar

I don't know how I missed this when it was published, but it's so good! While I don't think that weekly lessons are inherently the opposite of being stress free as a parent, they totally can be. Ideally, such "lessons" can really be engaging, enjoyable, and low-stakes conversation starters — or at least that what I personally hope for so as someone who spends my time in this space. (I wish there were a different word than "lessons" — one that could communicate the idea of a "joint exploration!")

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Celeste Davis's avatar

Oh you do amazing work in making weekly lessons stress-free experience! Thank you for your service 🙏🏼

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Steve Alston's avatar

Great article, Celeste! I'm not on the other side yet, but getting close. A few more years and the kids will all be out of the house. I don't consider myself to be a good parent, in fact so far my only parenting success is that they have good taste in music. I gave up worrying about being a good parent a long time ago, which has helped a lot. And maybe that's the only advice I have: don't worry about being a good parent. I know this is easier said than done, especially for people that have conditioning from the LDS church. Sometimes you have to take time to focus on your own health and well being, so you're not stressed. It doesn't make you a bad parent or selfish parent if you do that, it's helping you become a better parent.

Here are a few things on my list of being a good parent: my kids know I love them for themselves, not because they are just like me, but because of their individuality; they find those few things in life that bring them happiness and they pursue them; they treat all people with kindness; and they are good stewards of the Earth.

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Celeste Davis's avatar

What an inspiring list you've written Steve! Thanks! And good taste in music is no small success ;)

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Erika's avatar

I have adult children. This is how I interact with them NOW, but pretty sure I was more stressed when they were home. I’m going to have them read this and get their feedback. I’ll keep you posted! 😜

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Celeste Davis's avatar

Oh would love to hear their feedback!

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Jana's avatar

Love this article! I'm still in the midst of parenting so not an empty nester, but I have found what you say in the article to be true. When I manage myself, my kids seem to function better and our relationship is better. It's a win-win!

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Celeste Davis's avatar

Totally a win-win

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